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The media does (not really) feel sorry for trivializing violence against women

From Kanye to Serena Williams, it seems like everyone has been apologizing for inappropriate comments recently. But one apology you may have missed was that of Orange County Register columnist Mark Whicker.

Phillip Gerrido’s backyard, where Jaycee Dugard was held captive for 18 years.
Phillip Garrido’s backyard, where Jaycee Dugard was held captive for 18 years.

Whicker wrote a seriously offensive column on September 7th that attempted to use the rescue of Jaycee Dugard as a hook for a story on a series of sports highlights.

Dugard’s rescue earlier this year after being kidnapped at age 11 was big news. She had spent 18 years held captive in her abductor’s backyard, where he repeatedly raped her and forced her to give birth to two children.

Apparently Whicker thought a totally appropriate response would be this:

[Dugard] never saw a highlight. Never got to the ballpark for Beach Towel Night. Probably hasn’t high-fived in a while. She was not allowed to spike a volleyball… Now, that’s deprivation.

By turning her story into an intro for sports trivia, Whicker downplayed the violence Dugard suffered. After a reaction by angry readers, Whicker and the OCR’s Deputy Editor of Sports were forced to apologize. Unfortunately, neither actually seemed to understand why.

The same day as his apology, Whicker defended himself to Michael David Smith of AOL Fanhouse, saying: “I am quite surprised by the angry tone of the reaction. I think the intent of the column was still valid.” After Smith said Whicker shouldn’t have been surprised at the backlash, Whicker responded, “Thanks for ripping me. I’m really happy I devoted part of this very hectic day responding to someone who had as little interest in my viewpoint as the crazies out there.”

Likewise, Whicker’s apology comes across as audience-blaming, implying he’s mostly apologetic that “this column appears to have disconnected that bond with at least part of our readers.”

This video game explores Stockholm Syndrome and involves "using poison gas on the victim, sexually assaulting her and using psychological abuse against her in efforts to make her 'love' you."
This video game involves "using poison gas on the victim, sexually assaulting her and using psychological abuse against her in efforts to make her 'love' you."

Even the deputy editor’s apology seems to apologize more to Whicker — for “depriv[ing] Mark of what every writer needs: an attentive editor” — than to the audience.

The OCR’s handling of the situation is symptomatic of a society that is so desensitized by the media sensationalizing violence against women that the representation is dissociated from reality.

For example, many commentators argued George Sodini’s shooting of 12 women at a Pennsylvania gym wasn’t motivated by a hatred of women. New York Times columnist Bob Herbert responded to this incident and discussed our perception of violence against women:

“We profess to being shocked at one or another of these outlandish crimes, but the shock wears off quickly in an environment in which the rape, murder and humiliation of females is not only a staple of the news, but an important cornerstone of the nation’s entertainment.”

With rape simulations in video games becoming more common, crime dramas depicting violence against women with increasing explicitness, and mainstream “comedy” movies like Observe and Report treating rape as a joke, violence against women is glamorized and packaged for public consumption.

<em>Observe and Report</em> treats date rape as comedy
Observe and Report treats date rape as comedy

Whicker isn’t the only one in the media trivializing misogynist acts of violence and ignoring real women’s trauma, but he should definitely own up to his contribution.


Jarrah Hodge is a freelance writer and blogger from Vancouver, BC. Jarrah has a degree in Women’s Studies and Sociology and her writing takes an anti-racist, feminist look at pop culture, gender in the news, and politics. Currently Jarrah writes a column called Gender Files for the Vancouver Observer, and also runs her own blog at When she’s not working or writing, Jarrah can usually be found playing board games.

4 thoughts on “The media does (not really) feel sorry for trivializing violence against women

  1. When individuals in the media act irresponsibly they may re injure their ‘target’ subject, yet for most women, there doesn’t seem to be recourse once the damage is done. The armor of ignorance goes on the offender, reinforced by bulk sales of degenerative ideas. Mock apologies carry no weight of true remorse….and it’s not ok.
    Nice article Jarrah!

  2. This reminds me of the endless rape jokes I hear from guys. A lot of my male friends use “rape” as a synonym for “whooped” or “beaten”–in the sense of a sport of a game. Like if a basketball team lost a game by 40 points, they would say that that team got raped.

    It’s infuriating to me, and I don’t know how to get them to understand why I feel that way. They think that its edgy and funny to mention rape in a joking manner. They also don’t know that its like to constantly fear sexual assault or to actually have gone through it themselves. Men think they have the freedom to joke about rape because it is not as serious of a threat to their safety and well-being as it is for women.

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