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Interview with Gala Darling: Inspiring radical self-love

By June 29, 2011 9 Comments

Gala Darling, blogger extraordinaire, has a mission: to inspire her readers to love themselves — a self-proclaimed “radical” idea.

Starting out as a fashion and lifestyle blogger, Gala has now transitioned into a savvy businesswoman who makes a living from her brand. She’s originally from New Zealand, and now lives in New York City with her boyfriend and two dogs. She’s invited to high-profile events and rubs shoulders with designers like Betsey Johnson.

I first started reading iCiNG (the previous incarnation of Gala Darling’s blog) a few years ago, when she was living in Melbourne, Australia. Like her hundreds of other readers, I found her style and personality contagious. Even though she wasn’t always writing about topics I was interested in, she managed to captivate me with her bubbly and fresh energy. I followed her move to New York with awe, and dreamed of a life one day where I would be able to do something similar.

Over the years, her blog has evolved and Gala has taken on various projects with the common aim of inspiring self-improvement. Recently, her crusade is the “Radical Self-Love” movement: galvanizing change in body image but encouraging her readers to love themselves. She rallies her community, focuses them on taking specific action, runs Radical Self-Love workshops, dishes out incendiary wake-up calls like “Empty Bellies Do Not Beget Genius” and trumpets motivational words like: “The world is so big. Big enough that we can have 30,000,000 different types of beauty, & they are ALL cool & ALL valid & ALL fabulous!” She also recently published a series of posts about body image pressures in the fashion blogosphere.

I was interested in her mission, and in particular the apparent contradiction her work spans between fashion consumption and positive body image. And what better way to ask her about this that to interview her?

Gala, I may have resisted in the past, but I can now say that I’m unabashedly, unashamedly ON BOARD with Radical Self-Love.

Without further ado, I give you Gala Darling…

What inspired you to start the Radical Self-Love movement? Why is it so important to love yourself, and why is this a radical thing?

Gala: I started my blog with the intention of writing about fashion and lifestyle — mostly ways to make your life more magical and beautiful. As time progressed, though, I realized that most of my readers simply wanted to be happy, and were looking for ideas on how to do that, or how to get to that place. A leopard-print dress or pair of false eyelashes will only get you so far!

I had a lot of experience with dealing with self-esteem and self-image.  I battled with an eating disorder for five years, and had an incredibly poor view of myself. I was so sad and negative. With a lot of hard work, I managed to pull myself from the trenches of self-hatred and really fall in love with myself.  So it’s something I felt I could write about, or at least I could share my experiences with other people.

It’s radical to love yourself because so few people genuinely do. You only have to look around to see that most people are barely existing, treating themselves poorly and stuck in self-destructive habits. Loving yourself is as radical as being happy.  It’s the opposite of what the majority of society is concerned with!

The mission of About-Face is to equip girls and women with tools to understand and resist harmful media messages that affect self-esteem and body image. What impact do you think media messages can have on radical self-love?

Gala: I think the media can be a massive contributor to negative self-image, but I really think the responsibility lies within our families, friendships and communities to negate those messages. If your mother loves her body and you learn to love yours, then you have a much better chance of surviving the onslaught from, say, US Weekly. I think it’s up to adults and peers to set the tone. Don’t buy tabloids, and don’t read gossip web sites, because all of this contributes to the story that we are all competing with one another, that it is okay to judge one another, that all that matters is how you look, or how much you weigh today.

In what way do you think the Radical Self-Love movement can change the way we feel about ourselves and our bodies?

Gala: I think the radical self-love movement is powerful because it shows girls that they’re not alone in dealing with these crazy messages from Hollywood and wherever else. If you’re unhappy with how you look but you have no idea how to deal with those feelings, and you don’t know anyone with the skills to assist you, getting on board with the radical self-love movement means you have a huge community of women who can help you.

I write a lot about radical self-love, but I don’t know everything. My readers are such a smart and insightful bunch… The information they contribute is incredibly valuable. I’m working on ways to make the sharing of that information much more easy and accessible, which will be wonderful!

You also write about style, aesthetics, and consumption — all topics that involve some level of buying products, consuming advertising, and often having to deal with harmful media messages. How are we able to “buy into” these industries, and simultaneously reject their messages and achieving self-love? Can consumption and radical self-love coexist?

Gala: I think being a conscious consumer is important. Investigate the companies you’re buying from, really question the tactics they use to sell product, and look into their ethics. Do they test on animals or engage in unfair labor practices? Being able to look at things with an open but discerning mind is an incredibly valuable skill.

I also believe that extreme minimalism or rejection of all things frivolous can be miserable! We thrive on beauty, it feeds the soul, and if a pair of glittery shoes makes you feel better about life, then so be it! It’s not anyone’s place to judge that. Do what makes you happy, but think about your habits. Be aware of how you spend and whether it is provoked by emotion. Sometimes we shop to fill an emotional void or to distract us from what is really occurring in our life. Think about your habits and patterns, then behave accordingly.

Thank you, Gala Darling!