Comments on: Gym Dilemma #1 http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71 Media trespasses against us Fri, 25 Jul 2008 03:38:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: M.R. http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-8443 M.R. Mon, 30 Jul 2007 20:09:45 +0000 http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-8443 Hi Sandi What you described about your daughter sounds like you may need to talk to a professional clinician. Here is a website to find a professional in your geographic area. There are many caring professionals in the field of eating disorders who work with families. I wish you and your husband the best. http://www.edreferral.com/ Marcella from About-Face Hi Sandi

What you described about your daughter sounds like you may need to talk to a professional clinician. Here is a website to find a professional in your geographic area. There are many caring professionals in the field of eating disorders who work with families. I wish you and your husband the best.

http://www.edreferral.com/

Marcella from About-Face

]]> By: Sandi http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-8433 Sandi Sat, 28 Jul 2007 20:15:36 +0000 http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-8433 I have been searching for some discussion on this matter because my 34 year old daughter, who has run 2 marathons in the last year, has become this emaciated person you described, working out for hours and hours. Both my husband and I have talked to her about it, but she blows us off by saying that she's fine and has never felt better in her life. Hard for us to believe that line. What's more, she eats practically nothing & her skin is just hanging from her bones. We are scared to death of the outcome of this situation. Her husband also seems to be in denial. Can someone help us??? I have been searching for some discussion on this matter because my 34 year old daughter, who has run 2 marathons in the last year, has become this emaciated person you described, working out for hours and hours. Both my husband and I have talked to her about it, but she blows us off by saying that she’s fine and has never felt better in her life. Hard for us to believe that line. What’s more, she eats practically nothing & her skin is just hanging from her bones. We are scared to death of the outcome of this situation. Her husband also seems to be in denial. Can someone help us???

]]> By: Maggie http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-8059 Maggie Fri, 22 Jun 2007 01:14:57 +0000 http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-8059 Wow. That could have been me on that eliptical machine. Only, I did not have an eating or exersize disorder. I was recovering from a serious physical illness. I worked out with weights to rebuild muscle mass and also on the cardio machines to increase endurance. And, I looked like hell and was very self conscious about it. Just something to consider when you see a sickly person puffing away on the eliptical machine. By the way, I'm better now and look great. Wow. That could have been me on that eliptical machine. Only, I did not have an eating or exersize disorder. I was recovering from a serious physical illness. I worked out with weights to rebuild muscle mass and also on the cardio machines to increase endurance. And, I looked like hell and was very self conscious about it. Just something to consider when you see a sickly person puffing away on the eliptical machine. By the way, I’m better now and look great.

]]> By: penny http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-7973 penny Sun, 17 Jun 2007 04:18:32 +0000 http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-7973 WOW - this gym blog really triggered some people. If the blog upset you - and it definitely did upset many of you who responded to it - you may have a problem you do not want to face. The woman was exhausted, emaciated, and looked as if she were about to faint. Does this sound like an athlete? The woman also lives in a culture in which anorexia and bullima are epidemic. Maybe the emaciated woman is training for a marathon. And maybe the drunk woman at the bar usually just has wine with dinner. Or maybe they're both very ill and need help. If we're afraid to ask the question, everyone loses. WOW - this gym blog really triggered some people. If the blog upset you - and it definitely did upset many of you who responded to it - you may have a problem you do not want to face.

The woman was exhausted, emaciated, and looked as if she were about to faint. Does this sound like an athlete? The woman also lives in a culture in which anorexia and bullima are epidemic.

Maybe the emaciated woman is training for a marathon. And maybe the drunk woman at the bar usually just has wine with dinner. Or maybe they’re both very ill and need help. If we’re afraid to ask the question, everyone loses.

]]> By: laura http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-4196 laura Wed, 30 May 2007 14:06:36 +0000 http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-4196 bijou - I agree with your comment. There is most defintely a huge difference between athletes who are athletes for the joy of it, and those who are ill. bijou - I agree with your comment. There is most defintely a huge difference between athletes who are athletes for the joy of it, and those who are ill.

]]> By: bijou http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-1866 bijou Sat, 07 Apr 2007 00:14:31 +0000 http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-1866 S, I have worked out for over 3 hours before as well. In fact, I'm training for a half-Ironman triathlon at the moment (total race time will be about 5:45). Serious athletes do not run for three hours on treadmills - it's BORING and less efficient training than running outside. Nor do they have protruding rib cages and hipbones. What in the hell kind of a point did you think you were trying to prove? Get real. S, I have worked out for over 3 hours before as well. In fact, I’m training for a half-Ironman triathlon at the moment (total race time will be about 5:45). Serious athletes do not run for three hours on treadmills - it’s BORING and less efficient training than running outside. Nor do they have protruding rib cages and hipbones. What in the hell kind of a point did you think you were trying to prove? Get real.

]]> By: jane http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-196 jane Mon, 05 Mar 2007 16:24:43 +0000 http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-196 Talk to her to pick her brain about her perspective. Find out if she's running a marathon, or if she's just weight-obsessed. But, let her tell you about herself (you don't want to lead her on with your questions.) Then, take it from there. I think the hardest question is what if you find out she's got a body image problem and eating disorder. Then what do you do. Talk to her to pick her brain about her perspective. Find out if she’s running a marathon, or if she’s just weight-obsessed. But, let her tell you about herself (you don’t want to lead her on with your questions.) Then, take it from there. I think the hardest question is what if you find out she’s got a body image problem and eating disorder. Then what do you do.

]]> By: Jennifer http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-172 Jennifer Tue, 27 Feb 2007 17:30:19 +0000 http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-172 To #5: Sheila. Thanks for your comment -- this is a really controversial topic. The interesting thing is that you classified About-Face as a "fat people blog." First, About-Facers are a variety of shapes and sizes -- in fact, many of us are average or even thin. Many of us are athletic, too. Second, why would this entry be less important if it were written by a fat person? Just something to think about... - Jennifer About-Face To #5: Sheila. Thanks for your comment — this is a really controversial topic. The interesting thing is that you classified About-Face as a “fat people blog.” First, About-Facers are a variety of shapes and sizes — in fact, many of us are average or even thin. Many of us are athletic, too. Second, why would this entry be less important if it were written by a fat person?

Just something to think about…

- Jennifer
About-Face

]]> By: Sheila http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-168 Sheila Mon, 26 Feb 2007 23:13:27 +0000 http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-168 Yeah, ppl do assume that, which is why i hate fat people blogs like this. And I do understand people running themselves thin. I also know many skinny people (naturally!) are top-notch, speedy runners. I hate when fat people judge us just because we are thinner and more athletic than them! Yeah, ppl do assume that, which is why i hate fat people blogs like this. And I do understand people running themselves thin. I also know many skinny people (naturally!) are top-notch, speedy runners. I hate when fat people judge us just because we are thinner and more athletic than them!

]]> By: goleman http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-163 goleman Mon, 26 Feb 2007 03:46:01 +0000 http://about-face.org/blog/archives/71#comment-163 I do see a problem, that being; no one at least spoke to her to see if anything was wrong. Odds are nothing was wrong, but it’s still nice to ask. I can't say I've ever been in that kind of situation, nevertheless if I had I don't think I would have acted any different. Really, who am I to interfere with some hot skin woman exercising her heart out? It’s her life, maybe she’s trying to get in really good shape. This situation kind of makes me tied, all that running and all. I think someone at the gyms should of ask if she needed some water to at least distracted her long enough from her run to see if something was wrong. I do see a problem, that being; no one at least spoke to her to see if anything was wrong. Odds are nothing was wrong, but it’s still nice to ask.
I can’t say I’ve ever been in that kind of situation, nevertheless if I had I don’t think I would have acted any different. Really, who am I to interfere with some hot skin woman exercising her heart out? It’s her life, maybe she’s trying to get in really good shape.
This situation kind of makes me tied, all that running and all.
I think someone at the gyms should of ask if she needed some water to at least distracted her long enough from her run to see if something was wrong.

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