Comments on: The Things We Must Endure

By: Silverstar

Silverstar — Tue, 18 Mar 2008 15:44:15 +0000

Maybe women should start hanging out in large groups and yell rude, demeaning things to guys walking by. Hm..no some guys would probably like it. lol. Seriously though, some men need to learn to keep their mouths shut and keep their perverted thoughts(and body parts) to themselves.

By: Samantha

Samantha — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 18:07:19 +0000

Another thing I needed to share. My friend and I were talking and we got a conclusion: some men don’t respect women. Respect only another men. here in Brazil is like this. I mean, if you use a ring, a engagemet ring, the chances os suffer harassment decreases. Some friends of mine use fake engagement rings to avoid these situations. This is ridiculous!

By: Samantha

Samantha — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 18:02:35 +0000

Holly, I am from Brazil and I’ve already faced really disgusting situations. Stupid words and so on. Once a man toched me when I was 14. I was coming back from Bakery, using normal clothes (those big and long6 pants from school uniform) and a man did it. I fell embarased to remember.

In Brazil, to be a stupid woman is glamourized by the media. There are some TV programs where the girls are with small clothes, small bikinis making stupid jokes and behaving like idiots. I am tired.

In subways, many girls suffer sexual harassment. My cousin once was so angry that she tried to hit the guy in the face! Terrible, she was really angry.

Sorry for my english mistakes, but I needed to share these experiences.

By: W

Tue, 04 Mar 2008 18:55:09 +0000

One more thing. Trust your instincts. When your gut tells you something’s wrong with a guy. Act on it. Something IS definitely wrong.

By: W

Tue, 04 Mar 2008 18:54:44 +0000

One more thing. Trust you’re instincts. When your gut tells you something’s wrong with a guy. Act on it. Something IS definitely wrong.

By: W

Tue, 04 Mar 2008 05:10:47 +0000

When my mom was in her early twenties a man flashed her as she walked down the street. She looked down at his genitalia and commented, “It’s awfully small. You should put it away.” He did. Another woman in my family assaulted a man with an umbrella when he grabbed her outside of a bar. He limped away. Men in a situation like this are pathetic but also dangerous.

Men think it’s funny or flattering when they make an innocent cat call at a woman as she walks alone down a street. What they don’t get is that women are often afraid because they’ve undoubtedly had a previous situation where they were attacked or almost attacked. I have. To a woman alone it’s never JUST a cat call.

I believe, in my mom’s case, this pervert was counting on her being petrified or shocked. It’s how he gets off. To see her in a state of fear would have made him feel powerful. Take self defence classes ladies. Look this type of man in the eye. Walk strong and confident. By doing this you let them know as your passing by (quickly) that you’ll claw, bite, kick, scream, and do permanent damage if they try anything.

I’ve given cat callers the finger before. It’s been in situations where I’ve known I have a quick escape route. But, ultimately, you have to be comfortable with the level of risk you’re willing to take to send the message that you think they are pathetic and socially inept.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 01 Mar 2008 21:41:19 +0000

The way I see it is that men who harass you are just desperate. They are so influenced by the media and what happens in movies, they think that any women will just throw themselves at these guys who yell “ay mam-i! what you doing this weekend?” It really sucks that we have no other option then to just tune them out, it shouldn’t have to be like this but unfortunately thatâ€™s just how it goes

By: W

Fri, 29 Feb 2008 02:29:31 +0000

The male gender does this because many do not respect women. Those that do appear to respect women, I believe, are only doing so because the law prevents them from harassing and perpetrating against women. If there were no laws against sexual, physical, and emotional acts of violence - men would be raping, killing, and subjegating women at free will whenever they wanted. Corrupt governments and countries who have no laws protecting women are proof of this. Eg: Guatemala and many countries within Africa. There is documented proof of this and much research available.

Men, throughout history and in present day society, continue to violate a woman’s right to autonomy, privacy, and safety. They do it for power and domination. I have been called a hoe, fat bitch, whore, and numerous other insults that are not appropriate to mention, and I have been threatened with physical violence for not giving men what they feel they are entitled to - control over me, my right to freedom of expression, communication, and security.

I am sorry you have had such negative experiences already and at the young age of eighteen. I’d love to tell you that it gets better as you get older but it doesn’t. Men, throughout your lifetime, will be demeaning towards you. You have to stand strong against this abuse, and, unfortunately, either fight back, or grow thick skin.