This is one of my pet issues, how girls are told that to be always sexually available is a powerful position. As a young woman, I often tried to find my value in that, do to the strongly marketed message, but ultimately it didn’t feel empowering, just degrading.

As a mother trying to empower a daughter, and writing about it, I’m increasingly disgusted that she is already being marketed to, by Bratz and Barbies and other girl culture like Disney Princesses on clothing, that to be permanently sexually available is the key to happiness. To be desired is success is the girl-message of our sexualized culture.

Now that I’m a grown woman I realize - uh, no it’s not. Having my panties around my ankles is not what being a desirable and empowered woman is all about. But, it sure as hell made it really easy for men to get laid.

“Looks like you fit in perfectly. You are the perfect size.”

Thats as rude as teling a fat person after they make a mistake that, hey, its because all fat people must be stupid. They are “the perfect size.” Its bitchy and catty, and what she said almost made me cry. But hey, who. . .”

I didn’t write that entry. Apologies for any confusion.

Here, here for careful language that ensures all people in this movement are included. Here, here, also, for self-awareness and careful listening that promote peaceful discussion.

I believe it is important to recognize when anyone is feeling angled-out, hurt or attacked. AND, I also think it is important to believe the best in each other. In the eyes of advertisers, we’re all in this together. The post below shows us that fat women are used, just as well as thin, to promote a very particular, very limited image of women. Maybe we can recognize the need for careful language and inclusion, and also recognize that Plain Jane Couture is using the bodies of thin women to create an image that degrades us all?

“Looks like you fit in perfectly. You are the perfect size.”

Thats as rude as teling a fat person after they make a mistake that, hey, its because all fat people must be stupid. They are “the perfect size.” Its bitchy and catty, and what she said almost made me cry. But hey, who cares right? Skinny girls deserve to made fun of and beat down. Its like a game

Thanks for your comment and trust me, there is no “thin hate” implied. I am a thin woman and have never concerned myself with sizes. In fact, I even used to do some modeling.

I’m happy to see we agree on this company being disgusting, but I am afraid you are missing the point.

I’m certainly not bashing women who wear a size zero - I’ve coached plenty of gymnasts, divers, lightweight rowers, etc. . and have never thought of them as “vain” or “terrible human beings.” I don’t know where you are getting that. I’m asking for companies to think outside the airbrushed box, that’s all. I’m not blaming women for whatever size they are - that is ridiculous. I’m sorry you misinterpreted this. You read a lot of misplaced anger into this that simply wasn’t there.

I do accept women of all shapes and sizes - what I don’t accept is the spinelessness of taking on a modeling gig for such a company. (And greed is not an acceptable reason.)

I know I’m an idealist, but I feel that we are tasked to contribute to our communities and leave this world a better place. Trite as that may sound, it is true. I also believe that I am a role model for girls and I take that very seriously.

I am not prejudice towards larger women. I have a good deal of friends, who by their own terms are plus sized. But if I acted like you just did to me but in reverse, that would be considered fat hate. So you are far worse than I am, honey.